Who am I besides a mother? This question used to circle my head like a broken record. When my kids were babies, I struggled. I was weighed down by the guilt of wanting more from my life than being a stay at home mom. It tore me a part, it confused me, and it created a lot of anxiety. Finding yourself after motherhood can be overwhelming. But it doesn’t have to be!
That’s why I created the Not Just Mom Life Plan. It’s a 16 page plan that walks you through the process of restructuring and refocusing your life as a mom. It contains simple, customizable, actionable steps to help you create a life that makes you happy, satisfied, and filled with purpose.
Finding yourself after motherhood is complicated, but the Real Mom Nation’s Not Just Mom Life Plan can help you map out your journey back to yourself and your happiness.
You Before Mom
The Not Just Mom Life Plan starts with the understanding that you are MORE than just a mom! You are a complete person with or without your kid. You’ve just put yourself on the back-burner.
But, today, you can start fresh with this simple, easy to follow plan!
You were someone before you were mom, and you are still that person—just with a bigger heart, less sleep and more yoga pants. But, you’re still in there!
Trust me, I know because I have been that mother! I have wondered if I was a shitty mom because I missed my work life. I missed feeling appreciated. I missed the feeling of helping others and the purpose that it gave to my existence. It was my life fuel!
The Not Just Mom Life Plan gives you the framework to figure out how to balance all the things you want from life while being a mom.
Pressures of Motherhood
Your struggle isn’t your fault. It’s not all on you! We’ve been conditioned to believe that having a baby should satisfy all of our heart’s desires. But, long story VERY short–it usually doesn’t.
ENTER: Mom Guilt.
Often, we ignore thoughts of needing more from life because we feel like having a kid should be enough. We shove those thoughts down and (try to) ignore it.
But, the feelings of needing purpose and joy from something other than your child and family won’t likely go away. Eventually, you’ll need to face them.
Motherhood Identity Crisis
You don’t become a wholly new person when you become a mom. But, who you are expands in ways you didn’t know were possible. And, who you were often feels like the incredible shrinking woman.
It’s normal to let yourself be consumed by motherhood. We all lose ourselves (at least a little) after becoming a mother. But, when the person you were starts to resurface in your life, then that’s where the conflict arises.
It gets complicated and frustrating. The key is to be able to acknowledge it AND meet yourself where you are today.
Balancing Motherhood and Self
The trick to balancing motherhood and the rest of your world is to actually get BALANCE. You can’t keep leaving your SELF, your LIFE, your NEEDS out of the picture! If you’re NOT putting your needs anywhere on the agenda, then that’s the root of the problem.
That’s NOT balance.
It’s time for you to prioritize yourself and your needs, which includes any dreams or ambitions you have.
Finding purpose as a stay at home mom can be a struggle because figuring out where to start can be the hardest part! That’s why the Not Just Mom Life Plan is such a great tool. It holds you by the hand and shows you where to begin!
More than that, the Not Just Mom Life Plan helps you create actionable steps to get to where you want to be in your life. If you want to go back to a job you loved, great! This plan can help you make it a reality.
Truly, the sky is the limit–the only thing that is holding you back from getting to where you want to be…is you. So, take the plunge! Put yourself back into a place of priority in your own life.
You deserve this.