What do women really want for Valentine’s Day? Easy–we want HELP. I know, it’s not romantic, but it’s true. If husbands really want to turn their partner on this V-Day, then they need to rethink what it means to show LOVE. It’s as easy as seeing what your partner needs, and (shocker) giving it to them. That’s why Real Mom Nation is stepping in on behalf of love (and MOMS) and giving you a handy Valentine’s Day Cheat Sheet for your husbands.
The Real Mom Nation’s L-O-V-E LIST is a cheat sheet will help any mamma get the in the mood for love!
Print out the Husband’s Cheat Sheet for Valentine’s Day this year and get him to give you the gift of sharing the mental load!
Sharing Is Caring
Do you know what doesn’t cost a dime, and it shows you REALLY care? Doing the laundry, packing lunches, and planning a week’s worth of dinners in advance. These are all things that our well meaning flower-buying counterparts are completely capable of doing on their own without any help from anyone.
But, they don’t…not most, not usually, and not without assistance. (Yes, I know there’s that diamond in the rough that does it ALL the time. We all know…)
For the rest of us, our men say they want to help, but they either don’t know how or they don’t make it a priority. The result is mom burnout from carrying the mental load of the family all the time.
Forget Flowers & Do the Laundry
I think most women expect the wining and dining on V-Day because it’s been coined as the brass ring of love. We’ve been conditioned to expect the flowers, the card, and the pre fixe dinner as THE token of love from our partner.
And, truthfully, I think most men appreciate the ease and clean cut approach to this holiday. Even though most will sigh at the thought of Feb 14th.
As for me, I’m not a fan of the cookie cutter V-day protocol. I mean, flowers are nice, but do they really say “Hey, thanks for all the dinners you’ve planned, lunches you’ve packed, and laundry you’ve folded,”…um, no.
Love, to me, is getting down in the muck and taking control of the daily grind for a hot minute, so your better half can have time to shave her legs and shower properly this week.
How Do You Get Them To Help?
This year, I’m gonna help you keep your husband looped-in to what you REALLY want for Valentine’s Day—HELP! That’s right. I’m gonna give you a little pre-V Day gift, and trust me, this is gonna get the passion moving in the right direction!
Let’s keep this simple! Using L-O-V-E, I’ve come up with a fun list (the LOVE LIST!) of mental load sharing ideas that your husband can help with all week long! Instead of flowers (or in addition to flowers!) he can give you some LOVE from the L-O-V-E List!
Here’s an example:
L – Laundry (washing, drying, folding & putting away)
O – Offering to cook dinner (Check out Dinners with 5 Ingredients!)
V – Volunteering to hang with the kids all day Saturday so mom can have a FREE DAY!
E – Emptying the dishwasherClick here for access to the whole THE LOVE LIST
These are just a few ways that your husband can help SHARE the mental load this Valentine’s Day! This may even free up some time to get an overdue haircut or new digs. Sky’s the limit!
Get creative this Valentine’s Day and get what you really want–HELP! Print out the L-O-V-E LIST here and stick it in his work bag or tape it to the fridge! No need to be subtle this year, ladies.
Priorities are Everything
For many women (especially moms), having your partner share the burden of the mental load is the ULTIMATE display of love.
But, because so many women struggle with expressing a need for this, and because so many men struggle with not knowing where to start—the LOVE LIST is a great way to get things flowing in the right direction!
All it takes is time and prioritizing. Being made a priority is certainly the quickest and surest way to show someone you care. Sometimes, that’s what we all want the most, right?